Self-Esteem

The inner critic is real.

You’re the one they turn to for advice and help. You’ve accomplished a lot, and you’ve worked hard for it. You’ve always been the one that others count on for nearly everything.

There’s a part of you, though, that the admiration and caring of others never quite touches. Deep in your heart of hearts, there’s a part of you that is rather certain you don’t deserve it.

This is the part that knows that what you want and need don’t matter nearly as much as keeping the peace. When things don’t go well, this is the part that cringes, because you’re sure it’s somehow your fault.

This is your inner critic.

The inner critic is busy.

Even if you have done well and even if others tell you that you have done well, the inner critic is still replaying scenes after the fact and pointing out everything that you “should” have said, thought, or done differently.

No matter how much you do, no matter how much others say they appreciate you, the inner critic is always quick to point out that they’re probably only saying it to be nice or to get something from you. Perhaps they just haven’t figured out the truth about you yet.

The inner critic is wrong.

Even though it sounds true, the real truth is that the inner critic is misguided.

Trying to push you to accomplish and trying to protect you from failure and rejection, it can be harsh in its vigilance.

Once you recognize and understand the inner critic and why it does what it does, huge changes can happen with how you see yourself and your place in the world.

Correct the translation of the inner critic…

In counseling, we’ll talk about how and why the inner critic works. You’ll learn how to hear what it’s really saying, so that you can begin to respond to it accurately and productively.

I’d like to teach you how to recognize and address your inner critic and the things it says.

Imagine the relief of not questioning everything, while discovering peace from the doubt.

Let’s talk it over.